Too Much Time to Think

As I sit here in my bed...my newly decorated bed complete with duvet cover and matching European shams from Anthropologie...I can't help but think about a couple of things:
1. I have been watching too much TV.
2. Don't Tell Mom the Babysitter's Dead is still a fantastic movie.
3. I never EVER think about things as much as I have over the past couple of days and it's starting to bug me.

And this brings me to tonight's topic. While I'm assuming that there are a lot of people out there who have had the kind of dating experiences that I have....sans the 'Slayer' incident...I often find myself very intrigued by how two people can look at the same situation differently. Particularly two people of the opposite sex. Now everyone knows that men and women think about things differently. Quite differently at times. But if I learned one thing during my 2009 casual relations extravaganza it was that there are times when men think about things the way that I woman usually thinks about things - thus causing that woman to be quite frustrated. I'm sure the opposite happens with a man because more often than not the woman is over-analyzing every single minute detail of everything you could possibly imagine - thus causing a man to want to rip all of his hair out...or just never call her. Either way, the end result is usually not good.

Why do we all do this? What are we all worried about? Is it possible that every one of us is insecure to the point of exhaustion? Do we all have no confidence in our redeeming qualities that we spend every waking hour of the day wondering if the person we are even mildly interested in is thinking about asking us out...or just hanging out?

I was certainly guilty of this up until a certain point in my life, but I have to tell ya - as I have regained my independence and continue to work on any issues of self-confidence that have plagued me over the years I have to say...it is SO MUCH easier to just not worry about all of this. I know that's easier said than done, but take my non-medical advice and just worry about yourself. What makes you happy and what can you do to just be a better person overall...these are the types of things you should be occupying your brain power with.

There is one other solution to these issues and that is to not have so much down time in your life. My god. I haven't thought about anything as much as I have over the past couple of weeks because I haven't been at work and this has just opened up the flood gates. I feel like I did in 2006 again and I'm not digging it. I'm back in that questioning mode where I wonder what's going on in the other person's head and I haven't thought about that in the longest time. It's awful. So what am I going to do about it? This is I'm sure what you're asking yourself right now. I'm going to just stop. All together. And would you look at that...I feel better already.

As we enter into what will hopefully be a fantastic year for you all, I'm interested in hearing what's plaguing your thoughts these days. I would put money on it not having much to do with what's best for you. But I hope I'm wrong.

Have a good one.