Being that I'm new to the whole real dating world, I have finally come across a situation that I am pretty sure I wish never existed. It brings me back to my old mentality of constant head games...or over-analyzing situations to the point of exhaustion. I've reached an age (not implying that I think I'm old because clearly that is not the case) where I'm done with all of this thinking. And so I ask...
Why is it that when you meet someone, there are all these 'rules' or at least implied rules for when the guy should call the girl or vice versa? What is the point of these rules? I mean when you think about it, it's like starting a potential relationship off with head games and well...that's just dumb. Here's the scenario in case you're having a hard time understanding what I'm trying to convey here. You're at a party, event, bar....you end up talking to someone who you appear to be interested in and he/she seems to be interested in you. You exchange numbers before night's end and then days go by and nothing. What the hell is going on with that? If you are interested, or if the other person is interested...why don't they just pick up the phone and call? I know people are more comfortable these days with online forms of communication- but if you really want it to go somewhere - in 'real' life - why don't you just call?
I've decided that it's time to just go for it...so I have in a way...and I don't have any great success stories to share at this time...but I am hopeful.
Please share your thoughts because this really bothers me that people are still playing mind games at this age. I mean seriously...sack up. If you get rejected - who cares? You barely know the person anyway:)
Goodnight all.
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ReplyDeleteI'm glad you have decided to go for it. I think that as people in our 20s, 30s, whatever, if you haven't yet been rejected in your life you might as well start. I mean it's really not the worst thing that can happen--it doesn't leave you disfigured, paraplegic or even maimed in anyway. Seriously, it's a bruise to the ego that can easily be fixed the next time someone pays you even the smallest compliment.
ReplyDeleteThese so-called rules are antiquated views of dating. As we grow more technologically advanced where information and communications are exchanged faster than ever, it seems that these rules need to AT LEAST be revised to fit current lifestyles--if not downright dismissed. Alright, so you don't want to call right away and look desperate. I get that. I really, really do. But what exactly is the point of not calling for a week? Where does that get you? Unless you have someone else you are calling I'm sure the answer is "nowhere."
So as I said, I'm glad you've sucked it up. I did, and guess what, that's when it worked to my advantage. To everyone else out there... grow a pair, grab the bull by the horns and show a little interest. I bet it will have a far more positive outcome than your normal strategy.