Speaking of struggling, I seem to have a hard time believing that these types of situations can't work out for the best...or better for that matter. This same topic can be applied to former boyfriend/girlfriends, but I find it much more interesting in this very second to focus specifically on former friends.
Rather than sugar coating this and making up a hypothetical situation that very closely parallels the real-life situation that is the sheer inspiration for this post, I will just come out and say it (with no names of course).
Back in the day (Erin at 4 years old) I became friends with these two girls...turns out they're twins. Great. So we become great friends and fast-forward to high school. There were a couple of periods of falling out of friendship - almost entirely because they wanted to be friends with people in the class above us because they thought that would make them more popular...and then when those people got sick of them, they would always come crawling back to me and my group of friends. Any time I would have people over, they would conveniently come over after seeing all of the cars parked outside my house. Whatever. This happened a series of times and then we all went away to college.
Didn't really keep in touch in college, but when we would all be home on breaks, they made it a strong point to ask really random questions like- well what was your GPA? Who the shit cares what my GPA was? Not me...that's who. Needless to say...I have not been real friends with them for some time.
Now fast-forward to Facebook. I held off on the Facebook movement for quite some time. But, as most people do, I fell head first into Facebook and really use it for pictures more than anything else. I don't really look for people to be friends with...or care how many friends I have for that matter, but it's a lot of fun to keep in touch and see what people are up to who I normally wouldn't have the faintest idea about.
Being that I don't care how many friends I have on Facebook, I can say with 100% honesty that I don't always accept friend requests. This could be for any number of reasons. I find it creepy that people who I don't know or never really knew that well are interested in seeing what I'm up to when I haven't spoken to them..well..ever. And then there's the case of these two girls. The one friended me one time and I ignored it and she left it at that. Apparently the other is slightly looney.
At this point in time she has friended me 7 times on Facebook. And no...you did not read that incorrectly. 7 TIMES! PLUS...she has brought this up to my friends when she is at parties with them when I'm not there...making a huge deal out of it. Now, I know this has been a long post, so let me just recap..I have not spoken to these girls in years. They have never meant well and were never good friends to begin with. Always talking badly about people...you get the point. Why on earth would I want them to know what I'm up to? Of course the one girl thinks I hate her...and I really don't. I don't want to be friends with her though. Is there a way to do that?
The first time she see's me after me having ignored her friend requests for months she interrupts a phone conversation to be like - Hey Erin...are you ever going to friend me on Facebook? I proceed to just laugh and be like.. well I guess not. She then calls me psycho. Yeah. This is who I want to be friends with.
Well I literally have explained to people who find this story interesting that while I don't hate either of these girls...that I have no interest in them knowing anything about what's going on in my life. If they want to know something..well then speak to me like a normal human being- like we used to have to before there were stalker sites like Facebook.
To conclude, I just ran into this whole family at the supermarket and the mother and other sister (there are 3 sisters total)...we will call her the non-twin...both say hello while the other two do not. I said hello to everyone. And that is my case in point.
While I do not find it difficult to have many acquaintances in life, if you are genuinely not a nice person...this will be quite the struggle.
Sorry for the rant. I had to get it all out though. Happy Sunday!
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