After my first ever salsa lesson I think I have figured out one of my biggest problems when it comes to the opposite sex: eye contact. The entire time during my lesson, my instructor, Julio, kept asking me if I liked his shoes because I was constantly looking down. If anyone knows me, they know that I do not look down when I dance..if anything I look straight ahead, into the crowd, or at the ceiling- for whatever reason. I decided last night that the reason that I had a hard time with the turns in salsa was because I had to be right up against Julio and I wasn't comfortable with that. I mean I did just meet him a hot second ago. But we would do the turn and I would take a step back and I was supposed to take a step toward him.
Which is when I had my epiphany...Eye contact is at the root of all of my problems. I have an EXTREMELY hard time looking guys in the eye. I mean there is so much to be interpreted, either correctly or more than likely incorrectly (hence the term mixed signals, missleading, etc.) and who wants to be put in that situation? Not me. But here's the thing...why is it this way? Why is it that looking someone straight in the eyes is so difficult?
Here's what I think. Please feel free to disagree or agree..if you feel so inclined. I think there is so much natural sexual tension between the ladies and the gentleman that eye contact just intensifies that sexual tension even more so and it's really hard to avoid that feeling- at least for me. Now, please do not mistake that statement for meaning that every guy I look in eyes...or don't...that I'm experiencing a serious case of ST. That's not it. It's hard to identify the exact moments that this happens, but I just know that last night at salsa, I did not want to look at Julio for fear that he thought I would want to be more than his one-time student after those rates he showed me (almost $400 for just 5 LESSONS!!! SERIOUSLY?!!?!?). It's almost as if looking someone in the eyes means that you're flirting with them and I don't know why that is? Maybe it's that everyone is always looking for someone to be interested in him/her. Or maybe everyone is just really horny...who knows? All I know is that this is something that I seriously need to work on and I'm up for suggestions on how to overcome this horrible phobia of eye contact.
Before I sign off to go watch Nick and Nora's Infinite Playlist and eat mounds of Ben & Jerry's ice cream, I would like to add that this particular 'problem' could be due to the fact that for me, a guy's eye color is the first thing I notice and usually the most attractive feature on that person....for me. It's a personal preference and it's kind of a big deal (not really but that just felt right).
Anyway....help me out!! And thanks for reading.
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Stare intently at the bridge of their nose. It takes away the anxiety. And they'll never know the difference.
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