Will the Real You Please Stand Up?

And no, this is not an ode to Eminem. I wouldn't give that clown the air time on this prestigious blog if he paid me. I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine, who will remain nameless for this entry, but we were talking about a former friend of hers that is the epitome of every girl's or guy's worst nightmare (I cannot confirm but only assume that this type of behavior is equally as annoying with guys as it is with girls).

The situation goes like this. You become friends with a person and they seem perfectly normal. They are always down for hanging out and seem to get along with your friends pretty well. What could possibly be the problem? Apparently this person has had a difficult time 'discovering' themselves. This is a completely unforeseen occurrence. Usually when this happens- you think that he/she is just being nice by always agreeing to go to see the movie that you want to see, do things that none of your other friends would never do with you. You almost always think that it's your friends who are sucking. Before you know it, this person starts talking like you, dressing like you (hopefully more common with girls than with guys) and just all together getting on your nerves. How does this happen?

After you stop calling or returning calls, this person almost always finds another person who has not found a problem with their very high levels of imitation. Little time goes by when your best friend is calling to tell you that they're out with 'what's her name who is now the most annoying person you have ever met' and they are just having the best time! You get on the phone with annoying girl and she is talking exactly like your best friend, the next time you see her she is dressing like your best friend and she is all together acting completely different than when you and her were hanging out. What the F is this all about?

Unfortunately I have had this happen to me. A girl who I thought I was friends with blatantly tried to swoop in like a bat out of hell and befriend my best friend while simultaneously trying to end my friendship with my best friend. Luckily that didn't work out, but it's still an extremely upsetting part of my life that I would rather not think about.

To that end, I have a few choice words for people who are like this. End it. It is so beyond annoying and unnecessary to try this hard to be friends with people. If you are hanging around with someone who doesn't enjoy your 'actual' personality- you probably shouldn't be friends. It's not worth your effort and the other person's time to get to know the person you're pretending to be, so don't bother. This sort of behavior should be grounds for minimal torture or maybe these people should all be put into a room together so that they can all act like each other and not confuse the rest of us.

Anyway, has anyone experienced this type of situation? Please share.

Thanks,

E