A little while back...in the midst of probably another run-in with an appearingly normal guy who turned out to be a douche...I remember going over things over and over in my head. How can he go from wanting to hang out and chat all the time to no response? Was it something I said? Was it something that I did? Did I ask him to hang out with my friends too quickly? You name it - I thought about it.
No matter how often we tell ourselves that we shouldn't be so worried about things. That as long as we're being honest with ourselves everything should be all well and good - We always stray from this thought process. But why? I remember at that same instance that I was questioning all of those things about myself and what I could have done differently - I took a step back and said - Wait a second...what have I been telling myself over the past year? There is no reason why I can't be myself and he can't be himself and we can't just enjoy each other's company. Isn't that what a relationship should be?
"Samson Simpson! I stick by my story! If I wasn't Jamaican...then why would I wear this hat?" Okay sorry - I had to throw that quote in...it seemed like such a good fit.
Anyhow.. I'm gonna go ahead and stick by my original theory that two people can have a very successful relationship without altering their personalities entirely. It seems I have managed to do just that....so far. I remain hopeful and optimistic as always. See that...nothing's changed yet.
Best of luck to the rest of you. I hope you're happy just the way you are.
Gnight.
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Thursday, January 21, 2010
Dazed and Confused
After a vacation in paradise, I am having trouble organizing my thoughts. Could it be the 4 days straight of hard drinking? More than likely yes. Could it be the culture shock coming back to the US and not having to have a sit down meeting with papers to get cases of beer (all in Spanish)? Possibly. Could it be the fact that I'm stuck back at work now instead of at the most beautiful villa having rap video style parties with minimal male nudity? Definitely.
In summary I would say that Cabo San Lucas is not only the most beautiful place on earth, but that La Roca villa at Misiones del Cabo is hands down heaven. Just pure heaven. However, this would not have been the heaven that it was had it not been for the 11 people I was so fortunate to have gone on vacation with. Who would have thought that 12 later 20 something's could all COMPLETELY get along for 5 days - even after Foxworth had 10 Dewars just on the plane ride down? It truly was amazing and I am just so thankful.
I now have endless stories, hundreds of pictures and several videos that will never go beyond our 12 sets of eyes - and for good reason. Even with all of that greatness that will clearly last a lifetime, I think the most important thing here is that I have amazing friends. While I have known most of them my entire life - and others have shown up along the way - it constantly amazes me that the good times just keep on coming. Every time we hang out it's pretty much better than the last and I just find that to be so bizarre and awesome at the same time.
Are other groups of friends this much fun? I sure hope so because sometimes I feel bad that I'm always having the best time. I probably shouldn't - you're right - but I do anyway. And after just 5 days with these people, I can honestly say that the reason that we all get along as well as we do is because we are just honest. Honest and genuinely nice people. Maybe that last part is a bit of an overstatement for some. Foxworth did start playing with the man's hair who was sitting in front of him on the plane. Come to find out it was not Monaco but a very confused Asian man. He was not happy. I digress.
And so I will leave you all with a ridiculous line that I have learned from my friend Monaco, but one that certainly holds true in this particular blog post: You do you.
Just think about that and have at it. I certainly did in Mexico :)
night night.
Saturday, January 9, 2010
Seemingly Effortless
Not to step on the old 'Jump to Conclusions Mat' but we all know my track record with dating. Sub par to say the least. Not that that's necessarily a bad thing. It's given me so much in return - always skipping one of the more important things - but nevertheless has enhanced my ability to tell stories at a new level. And for that I am grateful.
But, if we are all keeping up here, I went out on what I considered a very successful...very pleasant...all-in-all a 'no complaints' date. And throughout the week there are the occasional texts but by Thursday there had been no plans to have a second date. So of course my first instinct is to think that this could be a 'friend' situation because I've known him for so long and we've never been more than friends so I went ahead and took the situation into my own hands - I asked him if he was doing anything over the weekend. Sure enough he wasn't and poof..we had plans for the next night.
So I got to pick the place...no questions asked...he loved the choice in fact. For the first time in my life I remembered something that someone said very casually and I used that to pick the perfect restaurant. I meet him at his place...we immediately play some Rockband because we're both obsessed. Turns out we make a great team - perfect. And then we head out to the restaurant.
Opens all the doors again. Very nice. Dinner was delicious. Great conversation. Laughing all the time...at the very least smiling the whole time. Then it was back to his place for more Rockband. Lots more Rockband. After something like 20 songs...maybe more...my back was ready to completely shatter. And then came the greatest back massage I have ever received...and willingly!!! It was amazing.
We then proceeded to watch Big Lebowski...hysterical. The Dude may be one of the funniest characters ever created. And I can't think of a better movie to put you in the mood...
But that I'll keep to myself. Just know that I haven't left a date with a bigger smile on my face in a very long time. I look forward to the third.
And herein lies my always churning mind - is it possible that things can be this easy? Nothing that can't be said, nothing that is over the line or inappropriate and we can completely be ourselves. Who knew?
Any reason for concern? Let me know your thoughts.
Enjoy the weekend...watch lots of football :)
But, if we are all keeping up here, I went out on what I considered a very successful...very pleasant...all-in-all a 'no complaints' date. And throughout the week there are the occasional texts but by Thursday there had been no plans to have a second date. So of course my first instinct is to think that this could be a 'friend' situation because I've known him for so long and we've never been more than friends so I went ahead and took the situation into my own hands - I asked him if he was doing anything over the weekend. Sure enough he wasn't and poof..we had plans for the next night.
So I got to pick the place...no questions asked...he loved the choice in fact. For the first time in my life I remembered something that someone said very casually and I used that to pick the perfect restaurant. I meet him at his place...we immediately play some Rockband because we're both obsessed. Turns out we make a great team - perfect. And then we head out to the restaurant.
Opens all the doors again. Very nice. Dinner was delicious. Great conversation. Laughing all the time...at the very least smiling the whole time. Then it was back to his place for more Rockband. Lots more Rockband. After something like 20 songs...maybe more...my back was ready to completely shatter. And then came the greatest back massage I have ever received...and willingly!!! It was amazing.
We then proceeded to watch Big Lebowski...hysterical. The Dude may be one of the funniest characters ever created. And I can't think of a better movie to put you in the mood...
But that I'll keep to myself. Just know that I haven't left a date with a bigger smile on my face in a very long time. I look forward to the third.
And herein lies my always churning mind - is it possible that things can be this easy? Nothing that can't be said, nothing that is over the line or inappropriate and we can completely be ourselves. Who knew?
Any reason for concern? Let me know your thoughts.
Enjoy the weekend...watch lots of football :)
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
Pretty Much No Rhythm
After spending a great deal of time with adults aged 35-50...up to 60 even..I have come to a couple of conclusions that I would like to share. Maybe they are more questions than conclusions...but regardless....
Where the hell was all of the rhythm in the 50s and 60s? Was finger snapping and swaying side to side the only options in terms of dancing because I can't quite figure out what all of our parents are doing on the dance floor these days and it hit me today that this might be something to concern myself with. In all seriousness though - they had all of the great music: Beatles, Tommy James and the Shondells (one of my favorites), and then growing up with even more of the greats - Zeppelin, Floyd, The Who, Talking Heads...I mean I am not going to list of my parents favorite bands. All of these bands could rock the hell out...what on earth were our parents doing when this was happening?
Smoking pot? Doing other mindless drugs that made them numb to the joys of dancing like there is no tomorrow? I'm gonna go out on a limb and say yes because there is just no other explanation for this.
If you look at people today in their mid-late 20s/early 30s...they can all dance for the most part. Sure...some better than others. We all know Leeann is a phenomenal dancer (I can say that because she doesn't read this)...but in all honesty, I can't name any parents.. other than maybe the Monaco's and the Stapleton's who can...as a pair... really tear up a rug. Why is this?
Please throw me some insights because I'm very curious. And let's help these poor souls out. Sure... I enjoy a hard snap from here to there but the crooked tilting and general awkwardness has got to go.
I love you anyway Mom!
Can't wait to hear your thoughts...all of you!
Goodnight.
Where the hell was all of the rhythm in the 50s and 60s? Was finger snapping and swaying side to side the only options in terms of dancing because I can't quite figure out what all of our parents are doing on the dance floor these days and it hit me today that this might be something to concern myself with. In all seriousness though - they had all of the great music: Beatles, Tommy James and the Shondells (one of my favorites), and then growing up with even more of the greats - Zeppelin, Floyd, The Who, Talking Heads...I mean I am not going to list of my parents favorite bands. All of these bands could rock the hell out...what on earth were our parents doing when this was happening?
Smoking pot? Doing other mindless drugs that made them numb to the joys of dancing like there is no tomorrow? I'm gonna go out on a limb and say yes because there is just no other explanation for this.
If you look at people today in their mid-late 20s/early 30s...they can all dance for the most part. Sure...some better than others. We all know Leeann is a phenomenal dancer (I can say that because she doesn't read this)...but in all honesty, I can't name any parents.. other than maybe the Monaco's and the Stapleton's who can...as a pair... really tear up a rug. Why is this?
Please throw me some insights because I'm very curious. And let's help these poor souls out. Sure... I enjoy a hard snap from here to there but the crooked tilting and general awkwardness has got to go.
I love you anyway Mom!
Can't wait to hear your thoughts...all of you!
Goodnight.
Saturday, January 2, 2010
Too Much Time to Think
As I sit here in my bed...my newly decorated bed complete with duvet cover and matching European shams from Anthropologie...I can't help but think about a couple of things:
1. I have been watching too much TV.
2. Don't Tell Mom the Babysitter's Dead is still a fantastic movie.
3. I never EVER think about things as much as I have over the past couple of days and it's starting to bug me.
And this brings me to tonight's topic. While I'm assuming that there are a lot of people out there who have had the kind of dating experiences that I have....sans the 'Slayer' incident...I often find myself very intrigued by how two people can look at the same situation differently. Particularly two people of the opposite sex. Now everyone knows that men and women think about things differently. Quite differently at times. But if I learned one thing during my 2009 casual relations extravaganza it was that there are times when men think about things the way that I woman usually thinks about things - thus causing that woman to be quite frustrated. I'm sure the opposite happens with a man because more often than not the woman is over-analyzing every single minute detail of everything you could possibly imagine - thus causing a man to want to rip all of his hair out...or just never call her. Either way, the end result is usually not good.
Why do we all do this? What are we all worried about? Is it possible that every one of us is insecure to the point of exhaustion? Do we all have no confidence in our redeeming qualities that we spend every waking hour of the day wondering if the person we are even mildly interested in is thinking about asking us out...or just hanging out?
I was certainly guilty of this up until a certain point in my life, but I have to tell ya - as I have regained my independence and continue to work on any issues of self-confidence that have plagued me over the years I have to say...it is SO MUCH easier to just not worry about all of this. I know that's easier said than done, but take my non-medical advice and just worry about yourself. What makes you happy and what can you do to just be a better person overall...these are the types of things you should be occupying your brain power with.
There is one other solution to these issues and that is to not have so much down time in your life. My god. I haven't thought about anything as much as I have over the past couple of weeks because I haven't been at work and this has just opened up the flood gates. I feel like I did in 2006 again and I'm not digging it. I'm back in that questioning mode where I wonder what's going on in the other person's head and I haven't thought about that in the longest time. It's awful. So what am I going to do about it? This is I'm sure what you're asking yourself right now. I'm going to just stop. All together. And would you look at that...I feel better already.
As we enter into what will hopefully be a fantastic year for you all, I'm interested in hearing what's plaguing your thoughts these days. I would put money on it not having much to do with what's best for you. But I hope I'm wrong.
Have a good one.
1. I have been watching too much TV.
2. Don't Tell Mom the Babysitter's Dead is still a fantastic movie.
3. I never EVER think about things as much as I have over the past couple of days and it's starting to bug me.
And this brings me to tonight's topic. While I'm assuming that there are a lot of people out there who have had the kind of dating experiences that I have....sans the 'Slayer' incident...I often find myself very intrigued by how two people can look at the same situation differently. Particularly two people of the opposite sex. Now everyone knows that men and women think about things differently. Quite differently at times. But if I learned one thing during my 2009 casual relations extravaganza it was that there are times when men think about things the way that I woman usually thinks about things - thus causing that woman to be quite frustrated. I'm sure the opposite happens with a man because more often than not the woman is over-analyzing every single minute detail of everything you could possibly imagine - thus causing a man to want to rip all of his hair out...or just never call her. Either way, the end result is usually not good.
Why do we all do this? What are we all worried about? Is it possible that every one of us is insecure to the point of exhaustion? Do we all have no confidence in our redeeming qualities that we spend every waking hour of the day wondering if the person we are even mildly interested in is thinking about asking us out...or just hanging out?
I was certainly guilty of this up until a certain point in my life, but I have to tell ya - as I have regained my independence and continue to work on any issues of self-confidence that have plagued me over the years I have to say...it is SO MUCH easier to just not worry about all of this. I know that's easier said than done, but take my non-medical advice and just worry about yourself. What makes you happy and what can you do to just be a better person overall...these are the types of things you should be occupying your brain power with.
There is one other solution to these issues and that is to not have so much down time in your life. My god. I haven't thought about anything as much as I have over the past couple of weeks because I haven't been at work and this has just opened up the flood gates. I feel like I did in 2006 again and I'm not digging it. I'm back in that questioning mode where I wonder what's going on in the other person's head and I haven't thought about that in the longest time. It's awful. So what am I going to do about it? This is I'm sure what you're asking yourself right now. I'm going to just stop. All together. And would you look at that...I feel better already.
As we enter into what will hopefully be a fantastic year for you all, I'm interested in hearing what's plaguing your thoughts these days. I would put money on it not having much to do with what's best for you. But I hope I'm wrong.
Have a good one.
Friday, January 1, 2010
2010 Resolutions...For the Hell of It
After ringing in the New Year with what is probably the coolest family of all time, I am feeling obligated to write out a couple of the resolutions I have set aside for myself in 2010. Not that these are of any particular interest to my readers, but maybe this will inspire all of you to take a good look at yourselves and see if there is anything you would truly like to change/alter slightly about yourself in the upcoming year.
This goes without saying that I am of the opinion that we should all constantly be looking at ways to better ourselves and should not wait for the changing of the calendar in order to do so. Knowing that that's just me living in my very own LaLa Land...I will move on.
Real quick, I would like to highlight some of the things that made 2009 the best year of my life (and these are in no particular order):
1. Erin is finally single and doing whatever the hell she wants with her time.
2. Booking the Salt Creek Grille for Donna B's big surprise party.
3. Worst trip ever to Mont Tremblant, Canada with my brother - and not because I went with my brother.
4. Blind dates from hell.
5. St. Patty's Day party embarrassment.
6. BBQs, Quality hang out time, beach...you get the picture.
7. The Keller Wedding
8. Karaoke after the Keller wedding
8. Olson's Best Man speech
9. Dominique's wedding
10. The after party for Dominique's wedding
11. LIVE BAND KARAOKE
12. Nicole's wedding
13. Visiting Chicago
14. Being single
15. Donna's actual party
16. PPI happy hours and shennanigans
17. Any incident of flip cup at Olson's
18. Planned trip to Cabo
19. Cruise in 2010!
And the list goes on and on. Please do not take offense if I didn't mention everything awesome that happened this past year. It's too much to remember.
In closing, I would like to give you a couple of things that I plan to work on in 2010 in the hopes that this year can be even half as good as last year. Here's hoping!
1. Pay off credit card debt - mandatory
2. Exercise more
3. Eat less
4. Spend more time writing....and reading.
5. Pay off credit card debt.
And there you have it. Cheers to a fantastic 2010!
This goes without saying that I am of the opinion that we should all constantly be looking at ways to better ourselves and should not wait for the changing of the calendar in order to do so. Knowing that that's just me living in my very own LaLa Land...I will move on.
Real quick, I would like to highlight some of the things that made 2009 the best year of my life (and these are in no particular order):
1. Erin is finally single and doing whatever the hell she wants with her time.
2. Booking the Salt Creek Grille for Donna B's big surprise party.
3. Worst trip ever to Mont Tremblant, Canada with my brother - and not because I went with my brother.
4. Blind dates from hell.
5. St. Patty's Day party embarrassment.
6. BBQs, Quality hang out time, beach...you get the picture.
7. The Keller Wedding
8. Karaoke after the Keller wedding
8. Olson's Best Man speech
9. Dominique's wedding
10. The after party for Dominique's wedding
11. LIVE BAND KARAOKE
12. Nicole's wedding
13. Visiting Chicago
14. Being single
15. Donna's actual party
16. PPI happy hours and shennanigans
17. Any incident of flip cup at Olson's
18. Planned trip to Cabo
19. Cruise in 2010!
And the list goes on and on. Please do not take offense if I didn't mention everything awesome that happened this past year. It's too much to remember.
In closing, I would like to give you a couple of things that I plan to work on in 2010 in the hopes that this year can be even half as good as last year. Here's hoping!
1. Pay off credit card debt - mandatory
2. Exercise more
3. Eat less
4. Spend more time writing....and reading.
5. Pay off credit card debt.
And there you have it. Cheers to a fantastic 2010!
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