I feel very obligated to begin this entry with a MASSIVE APOLOGY for taking so much time between posts. There are a couple of individuals..BOTH who are not actually followers..who have complained that I am significantly slacking on the blog front so here I am with flying colors and ready to get back into the swing of things. I hope I don't fall off the boat any time soon.
Being that I've had a decade (translation, a couple of weeks) to think about my next topic, it is still going to be what I meant to write about a couple of weeks ago: vanity. It's come to my attention that there are people out there who are either vain or people think they are vain when really the whole topic is just never fully discussed and I would like to get to the bottom of this.
Here's how I see it. You have those people (guys and girls) who are just 'face-value' hot. These people can almost always be found at Jersey Shore places like Jenkinsons or Bar A on the weekends or Tuesday nights in the summer wearing either a blowout and a muscle/surfer shirt or a jean skirt with a top that is barely there. Of course I adore all of these people, except for one minor detail. They probably suck.
And here's my theory. After meeting the hundreds of thousands of people who I have met- I have come to a couple of conclusions. One of those is that most people who you assume are vain or full of themselves or whatever, are more than likely lacking in several other major areas. Personality, sense of humor, Giants fans, outdoor activities, love of food, etc. All of these qualities make up an incredibly awesome person. I will almost put money on any one of these above-mentioned over-dressed and over-made-up people at Jenks or Bar A lacking in all of these areas- which is why they suck (see how that came full circle. I love it.).
Which is what brings up the question- why aren't those people who actually have all of these qualities: are cute, funny, smart, like the Giants, like to go out, dance, party, do karaoke and the list just goes on and on...why aren't these the people who have all of the confidence in the world? It makes no sense. More than likely, these are the people who struggle with body issues or have low self esteem and don't deal well with large groups of people who they don't know. There's a number of different scenarios here, but my question really is -- why is it that the people who have it all are very rarely recognized as having it all? When do they get the spotlight?
And so there it is..a question for those of you who still remember that I have a blog and are interested in what I'm thinking about on a regular basis. I hope I have opened up at least one person's eyes and helped him/her start up a conversation with a person who they may not normally have spoken to. Why not? At the end of the date you know that he or she is an idiot whose missing out on probably the coolest person they will ever know. That's what I always say at least.
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GREAT blog. I agree 100%. It's the whole "nice guy finishes last" thing (or nice girl) It's fine though, those really really ridiculously good looking people won't be so ridiculously good looking in a few years. then they will be miserable, wrinkled...and STILL suck. lol
ReplyDeleteAs the proverb says, "There is someone out there for everyone." I'm thinking that there is a large market for the blowout having, tanned in the winter, tight shirt wearing, too cool to karaoke, non-dancing type of people. They always seem to flock together anyways. Is it like a zoo exhibit, that we would all pay to check out? It does have some entertainment value. I tend to think that everyone has some redeeming value, but I just don't want to take the time to find out what that is in every individual. I guess it's just sad that we generalize about certain people, because we just might be missing out on the coolest person we might ever know.
ReplyDeleteIn closing I'll just say that it sucks that you don't know any guys who are cute, funny, smart, like the Giants, like to go out, dance, party, and sing karaoke.
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Very good post! Definitely thought-provoking. I can’t help but think I am one of the people you were referencing in the very beginning of this post. So,…allow me to retort.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. A lot of people (guys and girls) fall into one of two categories, hot but shallow or less hot but interesting. And while I have never been to Bar A or any of those places, I have been to Hoboken enough times to know exactly who you are talking about. I’ve seen these guys with the spikey hair, the orange tan and the overly-trimmed eyebrows. These people are freaks of nature. They would not be hot anywhere else in the country other than north Jersey, which has its own, crazy little gene pool. Drop one of these guys into a bar in Destin, Florida and they would be laughed out of the place.
But the bigger picture here is that people are not all that different from other animals on the planet (as much as we like to think we are). We all have our survivor mechanisms. People who grow up really hot don’t have to rely on anything else. They get attention the minute they walk into the room, just for how they look. They don’t have to bother developing a personality or learning how to do complex algorithms because they get by just fine in life simply by looking good.
People who do not fall into the muscles-busting-out-of-their-shirt category have to rely on other mechanisms to get by in life, like being funny, smart, good at karaoke, or the God-given talent of being able to use any Samuel L. Jackson movie quote in everyday conversation (see 1st paragraph).
The best thing to do is to be a combination of these factors. Take care of yourself physically, but also strive to better yourself intellectually. Because, yes, one day those looks will fade. Then what are you gonna do?! Huh?!
I’m talking to you Samuel L. Jackson!
"Personality, sense of humor, Giants fans, outdoor activities, love of food, etc. All of these qualities make up an incredibly awesome person."
ReplyDeleteOh... why thank you. I always thought I was incredibly awesome. You didn't need to call me out in your post though... :) haha
P.S. Blow-outs and inhuman orange skin tones are sexy. I mean, what you are you, blind?