Jealousy is Another Way of Saying...

It's funny how random my blog topic selection is, and while I will keep this one completely anonymous, I will say that it was a result of something that I saw on Facebook (how shocking). Despite knowing that what I saw wasn't true jealousy, it did spark a thought in my always-churning brain that made me want to write this down. It's either that or I am avoiding posting the two blog posts that I wrote both during and post break-up so we'll just stick with the latter here :)

In regards to jealousy, I have to say that I believe Webster has gotten it all wrong - at least when you're talking about jealousy in relationships. I have absolutely no comment on jealousy when it comes to friendships or just in general in life when people are jealous of other people. I'd like to believe that it is more envy on that person's part but when all is said and done - people ultimately do not wish good things on other people for some sick and twisted reason and I find that to be very unfortunate. So much for no comment.

In relationships, it appears to me that jealousy can be directly attributed to insecurity and who really wants any part in that? Not me. And maybe that makes one of us, but I feel as though people would be lying if they said that they thoroughly enjoyed those conversations that either take place at bars, outside of bars, or on the way home from bars that go something like this:

Her: Who was that girl you were talking to?
Him: Oh - she's an old friend of mine from college who I haven't seen in years.
Her: Really? So did you sleep with her in college?
Him: What?
Her: You heard me. Did you sleep with her in college or even come remotely close to thinking about sleeping with her.
Him: No. I just said we were just friends.
Her: We're not speaking and I want to go home.

Please keep in mind - I know I have created an extreme exaggeration here, but let's just call a spade a spade - people are INSANELY jealous and I feel as though it is time wasted. And this goes for both sexes. Guys are equally, if not more so, jealous of girls when they are out and end up talking to another guy. It's as if no one (for the most part) is dating someone who they truly believe is 'into them.' Isn't that sad? Isn't it sad to know that even when you're in a relationship and you can have all of the good times in the world that there will always always always come a time when you're thinking or better yet - worried - that your significant other - is cheating on you, thinking of cheating on you, or heaven forbid - looking at another guy/girl.

And for those of you who fall into this category - I offer you this tad bit of advice:

Sure - there are going to be times when you're out and your boyfriend/girlfriend see someone who they haven't seen in a while, or who they always had a thing for and maybe - just maybe - it will spark something and they will want to be with that said person rather than you. That's not your fault - first of all - but obviously it's not ideal. For all of the other relatively normal relationships we have all been in - I highly recommend being a little bit more understanding of how the mind works. At the end of the day - everyone is attracted to new and exciting people on a regular basis. That doesn't mean that they want to end what could have been a 4 year relationship over it. And I'll tell you one more thing - having those 'all the time' conversations about how much he/she is flirting when you're out in public or not paying you enough attention or whatever the case may be where you are bringing up these full-of-question conversations that are always arguments - will more than likely lead you all the way back to single life. And let's face it - dating is weird enough as it is so maybe if we were all just a little more confident and had faith that while yes - (and this is hypothetical) - my boyfriend may look at a girl and think to himself - wow.. she's so hot...I'd like to do X, Y and Z to her...if he really cares about me he won't.

Here's to witnessing less arguments in public when I'm out just trying to have a good time :)