Every day people spend time analyzing the differences between men and women. When you really think about how much time we all spend trying to figure out why he took what I said the way that he did or why she reacted the way that she did - all to find out that nothing was wrong in the first place. That's what I'd like to call - over-analyzing. It's f'n exhausting.
That of course is not the purpose for this blog. Today at work a very young, enlightened mind said to me, "We decided today that men are much more sensitive than women and women are emotional." My response was - I will write my blog about that tonight and here I am.
I'm very interested in this concept because I feel like it couldn't be more on point. Generally when people hear words like emotional and sensitive - there is almost always an assumption that the person/people in question are women. Which makes sense - women generally express themselves more regularly, have unnecessary emotional outbursts that could probably be avoided with a hint of self confidence or trust for that matter. It is for that exact reason that I am confident saying that women, more often than not, let their emotions get the best of them.
Men on the other hand, have a little something stronger that tends to get in their way and that is their ego. I firmly believe that most men (sorry for the blanket statement) let their egos get in their way more often than not- rather than just admitting to a whole slew of things - being wrong, trying to get their way when it's really no big deal, doing something they don't want to do - necessary - and putting up a bit of a fight to try to get their way...all of these things are what drive everyone crazy - including the guy who is involved in the conversation. And I truly believe that a negative effect of the male ego is extreme sensitivity. They don't want to be wrong. They don't want to be told what to do - whereas most girls would rather be told what to do - or at least that seems to be what people think. I say this with absolutely no success stories on dating, on guys or on anything I guess so I'm talking right out of my ass.
I do find that if you are truthful with a guy and it is something that he see's as an insult, a personality flaw or a stereotype - he is not going to be happy with you. And that right there is sensitivity. Sensitive to certain topics - maybe that's a better way to put it. The point is - more often than not - if you say something to a man that can, in some way, be taken as an negative characteristic that he might have - this is not going to be received very well - UNLESS - this man in question is magically willing to understand the fact that we should all be working hard to better ourselves on a daily basis. While that may come across as an incredibly lame statement - I'd say now, more than ever, that's something that I'm sticking to - so please go ahead and deal with the lameness.
So what do we think of these generalizations? Am I crazy...or just absolutely right?
I'd love to hear what you think - as always.
Have a good one..
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Men never see a reason to change for the most part. That would be a weakness you see indicating that there is something wrong with them (and usually there is). Human beings need to strive every day to improve themselves, find that flaw that someone may point out, and move on. You could always preface a sentence with "you are 99% perfect in my book, and the 1% that needs improving is this..." Keep doing that and they will realize that they are truly only 80% perfect! Good post.
ReplyDeleteThe tricky thing is this…When you find a flaw in someone, this is really YOUR PERCEPTION of a flaw. In other words, when we see other people, we are not seeing them for who they really are, but rather, our interpretation of who they are. A flaw in someone else may not really be a flaw, but rather, our opinion of a flaw based on our own upbringing and our own experiences.
ReplyDeleteAs an example - in some parts of the world, body odor is not a big deal, but here in the US, it’s considered bad hygiene. (We, as Americans, consider this a flaw, but who’s to say who is right.)
We were all raised a little differently. We all come from different backgrounds. We all have different life experiences that have shaped us into who we are. When someone points out what they perceive as a personality flaw, they are (in essence) calling out our entire upbringing. A sensitive topic indeed.
We should all strive to be better people as we mature. But who’s to say what ‘better’ really is.