Just Say So

While I may not have the resume to back up what is to come in this post, I am feeling the need to make a statement about being honest and upfront when you are casually seeing someone, actually dating someone or anywhere in between those two. When I say that I don't have the resume in this situation, I mean that I haven't dated around enough to probably make statements like this, but this is pretty much common courtesy so I'm not worried about it.

Why is it that it seems near impossible for a guy (or girl) to be honest with the person they're involved with on any given day? At this age, and yes...that is at the ripe age of 26 that I make this statement, I would HOPE that we are all mature enough to just say whatever it is we're thinking. If that hurts someone's feelings, tough shit. People have their own ways of going about handling given situations and let's just be honest and say that they will get over it eventually.

And this common courtesy I'm referring to doesn't have to involve someone you're even 'involved' with. That could be too strong and we know how guys can get (sorry...I'm sure girls can get this way too but most likely not) if you refer to your status with him as anything other than friends at best. God forbid. That's not even the situation here though. What I'm talking about is this:

You start talking to someone and you realize you have something in common. Super. So maybe you hang out a couple times, text, talk on the phone (blasphemy) or exchange IMs through Facebook. I mean the forms of communication are endless which only further emphasizes my point. Now clear out of the blue all communication ends. No explanation, no phone call, no text, no Facebook message, tweet, nothing. With all of the mediums out there in which to do so, it absolutely baffles me how difficult this is and yet they made an entire movie out of it. He's just not that into you.

If you were seeing someone else at the same time that you were talking to me, who the hell cares? Do you think this is going to put me into therapy that I can't afford because my insurance won't pay for it? God no. These types of things only matter if you're in an actual relationship and even then it seems guys have difficulties being honest. I'm hopeful that marriage brings out the honesty in people, but even that is up for debate at this point.

Regardless, here's what I think. Why bother wasting anyone's time in the first place? I've heard all of the excuses in the book at this point - even with my bleak resume. Hell...I've had a guy tell me that I was too good of a person for him. Are you friggin kidding me? So what does that make him? A bad person...very good. These are all ways of dancing around the obvious: you're just not interested anymore...never were...never will be and yet you continue to waste my time providing just enough humor and physical chemistry to keep me mildly interested.

Moving forward I ask that anyone reading this blog, or passing this blog along to friends to read because it's just that entertaining and useful, abide by the following dating/relationshipping rule: If you, at any moment in your dating, relationship, what have you, find yourself uninterested, losing interest or doubting your interest in general, open your mouth and say so. Don't make us beat it out of you. That's extra effort that we could be putting to good use on someone who might actually be interested.

Let that sink in over the weekend and let me know what you think. And share stories - as always. I love to hear them.

Happy Day.